The emotional struggles that a Birthparent goes through are extreme. Our staff is both specially-trained and experienced, and more than qualified to help individuals through what may be a terrible time. Following is a simple Q & A:

What am I going to do?
When you first found out you were pregnant, you may have thought "why me?" It is normal to feel confused and anxious about an unplanned pregnancy, but you do not have to go through this alone.

What if I'm not sure adoption is for me?
Being confused and anxious is normal -- especially at this important time in your life. Doing what is best for your child is a difficult decision. Your social worker will work with you to sort out your feelings, and establish the best plan for your child.

Who places children for adoption?
The answer to this question is simple -- all kinds. Women can range from age 12 to 45, be single or married, healthy or ill, wealthy or poor. But although they may be varied in things like appearance, economic status, or social standing, women who choose adoption have one thing in common: they believe in providing the best life possible for their children.

What if I already have a child?
Many women who already have children realize what parenting means and that circumstances may prevent them from raising another child. It is not uncommon for women who have other children to place a newborn for adoption.

Am I being selfish to consider adoption?
No. In fact, it's just the opposite. It is not selfish to choose what is best for both you and your baby. Being a good mother means putting your baby's welfare above your own. Sometimes, this means realizing that you are not able to give your child the life you want for him/her, even with the help of family and friends. Placing a child for adoption is a selfless act of love.

How does BVS assess/choose adoptive parents for children?
All adoptive parents that apply to our agency receive a thorough home study. Families are selected on the merits of their ability to love and nurture a child, as well as how well they can help a child reach his/her fullest potential. Family backgrounds, education, employment histories, etc., are explored and intensively researched. Personal and criminal references are also checked to ensure a safe, stable, and loving home for babies.

May I assist with the choosing of my child's adoptive parents?
Yes! You can select a family from anonymous profiles or we can select one for you. If you wish to send letters or mementos with your child, that is perfectly acceptable. If you wish to maintain contact with your child through letters and/or pictures (and the adoptive parents agree -- and most do), BVS can assist with that process.

Why BVS?
All of our services are free of charge. And, most importantly, your decision is just that - your decision. We apply no pressure.

When should I call BVS?
You can call anytime, if you have just learned of your pregnancy or you are due to deliver you child soon. You can even call from the hospital. We are here to help you, to provide support and comfort in this most important and emotional time.

What happens after I call you?
When you call, a social worker will meet with you to listen to your fears and anxieties, and discuss your situation, options and the resources that are available to you. Our staff will meet you wherever you are most comfortable - in your home, in the office, or even at the hospital.